If you don't like the rules, ask calmly about changing them. They may have rules about things like when you can be alone with a date.The Real Truth About Teens and Sex By Sabrina Weill Excerpt from Chapter 1Truth #1Teens Have Secrets About Sex (and They Want Adults to Know Them)Exclusive National Survey Results Teens: Tell the Truth!Do you have a secret about your sex lifethat you'd never tell your parents? or get yelled at." —Bethany, 17, New Jersey Many parents have confessed to me that, at some point, they have experienced a nearly irrepressible urge to rifle through their teen's backpack. practically emblazoned with "Read me—she'll never notice."It's understandable that parents would want to do a little investigating.
However, of those teens who delay sex, the primary reason they give is religion or morals.Remembering the unique needs of teenagers in this area can help.According to the National Campaign to Prevent Teenage Pregnancy, nine out of 10 teens say that they would be more likely to delay sex if their parents would talk to them about it.We get so many questions about dating, relationships, girlfriends and boyfriends, physical intimacy, and the whole list of awkward sex questions.And that's totally okay by us because we're glad you're looking for biblical answers to these questions rather than trying to figure out the whole dating thing on your own or basing your actions on what the world tells you to do (2 Peter ).1 in 11 14-year-olds say YES.1 in 8 15-year-olds say YES.1 in 5 16-year-olds say YES.1 in 3 17-year-olds say YES."We lie to you because we don't want to disappoint you . Or to read their teen's journal—be it an online diary or a lined book filled with loopy script that was left spread-eagle and spine-up near the family computer . Even without any solid evidence or direct testimony, there are clues when a teen is embarking on a journey for which his or her parents did not plan the itinerary: the left-onscreen IM to a girl with an unfamiliar name that ends "i luv u!